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The Story Behind the Working Mothers Expo

October 1, 2016

Janice Windt, Founder and MD of the Working Mothers Expo, in partnership with MiWayLife, had a son of nine months old and was pregnant with her second when she was offered the career opportunity of a lifetime. Thrilled and devastated at the same time, Janice was at a cross road that so many women face: can I be the mother I want to be and also have a thriving and fulfilling career? Today, she has started a movement with her fellow working mothers: to remind us that there is support and inspiration out there and that It is possible to make life work if you’re willing to ask for the help you need.

 

Every woman’s story is different. We all have different circumstances, goals and ambitions, but work life integration is a juggle that every working mother has to learn how to manage. Our careers are often a vital part of our identity and sense of purpose. But when our families come along, we are faced with a transition both at home and at work which isn’t easy to manage and, often, something has to give.

 

This was Janice’s experience, and that of many of her colleagues and friends: “I started speaking to other working mothers and realised that many of them were struggling with similar things. Many of them were making decisions that they regretted. They were trying hard to cope and putting on a brave face. My heart started to break for these women – for all of us.”

 

Janice became so passionate about giving voice to the struggles working mothers were facing that she started a blog and eventually interviewed over one hundred working mothers from seventeen countries around the world.

 

“It was such a privilege to speak to all these women from different backgrounds and cultures and to have them open up to me about their lives. I realised that the challenges we face are not unique. Working motherhood is a challenge. If you find it hard, trust me, you are not alone.”

The Working Mothers Expo brings together everything working mothers need under one roof.  Working mothers need to realise they are not alone, get access to the help and inspiration they desperately need and have a moment that is, quite simply, all about them.

To get in touch with Janice and her team and to find out more about the Working Mothers Expo you can visit www.workingmothersexpo.com.  Tickets are available at Computicket

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The Working Mothers Expo, brought to you in partnership with MiWayLife, brings together everything working mothers need under one roof. 4-6 November 2016. Sandton Convention Centre. With world class products, services and speakers and great entertainment for your kids, this is an event not to be missed.  Tickets available at Computicket

 

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10 Ways to Love Your Man – Guest Post

September 5, 2016

We know what it’s really like. When you have young kids, a job to hold down and a house to run, it’s not easy to find the time or energy to love your man…

But the truth is that we believe the most important thing you can do for your kids is love your man. And we mean LOVE. We mean look up to him, build him up in your children’s eyes and let them see love modeled in your relationship. They will not see it anywhere else. They are more likely to experience the exact opposite in the world, their friends’ homes and lives, everywhere really.

Love is hard to find and hard work to keep… so let’s get started:

Ten Ways To Love Your Man

1) Tell him he is awesome. He needs to hear it. He needs you to look into his eyes and tell him that he is good at his job, a great friend and a wonderful husband or partner and mean it. Find three things that you absolutely love about him and tell him… again and again.

2) Really believe that he is awesome. No-one is perfect. None of us are without a lazy, irritating habit or a loud snore or the tendency to open windows and let him close them. We all have our problems. Look for the good in him and be absolutely convinced that the good outweighs the bad.

3) Don’t judge him. When kids arrive, many mothers put their husbands off childcare instantly with these six words: “that’s not how you do it!”. Let him do it his way. It is probably not perfect – but neither is yours, and wouldn’t you rather have him change a nappy by hook or by crook than have to do them all yourself?

4) Celebrate who he is. Many of us date and marry with the intention of “saving” or “changing” or “enhancing” our men… don’t. Accept him for who he is – just in case he doesn’t change.

5) Believe in who he is to become. The thing is, he will change. Your task is to support him and encourage him as he grows… not to point out all the bad things about him so that he will eventually change into the man you would like him to be. That person does not exist. Your man does – smelly socks and all. So just love him and keep loving him as he grows into himself – there is such beauty in lovingly walking with some-one through life in this way.

6) Find his work interesting. Even if you don’t. Find a question to ask – and really listen to the answer. It’s amazing how much more interesting something (anything) becomes the more you learn about it…

7) Love, or put up with, his friends. They are a part of him. Hopefully you can get on well with their wives and girlfriends – if you can, you have hit gold!

8) Look good for him. My grandmother used to always tell me to put fresh lipstick on before my husband came home. The only problem is that I hardly ever wear lipstick and often work as hard as he does… I am not talking about a 50’s Home Economics Textbook here. I am talking about staying in shape so that you are fit and healthy and he is proud to look at you and know you are his. It’s important to him.

9) Lean on him. I’m not one of those Supermoms who are out and about with their newborn in week two. Not me. Nope. I could not have scraped myself off the floor without my husband on many days. So this one was easy for me. But it does pay off to lean on him – even if you are a Supermom and have to fake it a little…

10) You know what number ten is. You do, really. Just find a way to do it for fun with him now. As often as you can possibly scrape together the energy. It’s worth it! He needs it more than he will ever let on.

Now, we would love to hear from you… how do you find the time and energy you need to love your man?  Do you have a regular date night? Or manage to carve out time to be together in some unconventional way? The truth is that we’re all in this together and your comments could help thousands of mums around the world to find new ways to love their man and, more importantly, realize that they are not alone in the challenges they face…

If you found this article helpful, we would be honoured if you would share it with your friends via email or social media, sign up for the Working Mothers Expo VIP Waiting List and book your diaries for an event you will not want to miss

See you soon!

The Working Mothers Expo, brought to you in partnership with MiWayLife, brings together everything working mothers need under one roof. 4-6 November 2016. Sandton Convention Centre. Meet our MCs, Elana Afrika and Claire Mawisa, at the Speakers Corner.  

If you would like to inquire about sponsoring or exhibiting at the event, please email us and we will send you all the details you need.

Tickets available at Computicket

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Do you struggle to get your kids to listen to you? – Guest Post

August 15, 2016

We all do it… we make idle threats in the grocery store to get the kids out of the sweets aisles and through checkout. But do you often find yourself falling into the trap of threatening without real consequence? Do you struggle to get your kids to listen to you? If you do, this article is for you.

My husband and I often feel that we are flying by the seat of our pants with our two kids – born seventeen months apart and both with the most wonderful, strong personalities you can imagine. So we ask for advice as much as we can. We have recently been through some excellent parenting workshops at our eldest son’s school.

A key takeaway from our recent parenting course is the following: “Punishment is the result of an absence of discipline”. So, if punishment is the “”timeout” or “naughty chair”, then what is discipline? It’s simple: following through.

I have often made idle threats. Unintentional, well-meaning, idle threats… “Put that back or we are leaving the shop now”, “Sit nicely in the trolley or you won’t get that sweet I promised you”. You can’t really blame me… trying to complete a shop with personality filled two- and three-year-old boys is no easy feat. Sometimes you will do just about anything to get what you need to get done, done. Preferably without sequential melt-downs. But, often, we choose the easiest route in the moment and sacrifice the longer term benefits of children who respect what their parents say and know where they stand.

The other day, I tried the follow-through approach: We were on the way to the park – My eldest son on his trike and my youngest son on his push bike, as excited as could be for the slides and swings that lay ahead. Unfortunately, my eldest started heading the wrong way – pushing the boundaries – down a dangerous hill with traffic at the bottom. I asked him to turn around. Nothing. I then told him that if he didn’t turn around we were going home – it was too dangerous. Unfortunately, he didn’t listen. I had to physically turn him around and push him back down the road we had come up, while carrying my youngest and his black push bike back home kicking and screaming (my son, not the bike!) in my arms. Our neighbours and their visitors gawked at the scene we made. I kept cool. Unmoved by the cacophony of sound that my boys can produce. My eldest son pleaded and begged, promising me he would listen. But it was too late. I had made a commitment and I was following through, come what may.

Well, once the hullabaloo had calmed down, do you know that I had the most relaxed and compliant afternoon from those boys? They had a lovely play together, came and sat down for dinner and ate it all up. Now, they are each tucked up in their beds and I have a moment to write this before I make dinner. What a difference! I’m committing to keep following through…

Now, we would love to hear from you… do you manage to follow through with your kids?  Do you have an awesome new way you’ve discovered to get your kids to listen to you? The truth is that we’re all in this together and your comments could help thousands of mums around the world to discover new ways to get their kids to listen to them and, more importantly, realize that they are not alone in the challenges they face…

If you found this article helpful, we would be honoured if you would share it with your friends via email or social media, sign up for the Working Mothers Expo VIP Waiting List and book your diaries for an event you will not want to miss

See you soon!

The Working Mothers Expo, brought to you in partnership with MiWay Life, brings together everything working mothers need under one roof. 4-6 November 2016. Sandton Convention Centre. Meet our MCs, Elana Afrika and Claire Mawisa, at the Speakers Corner.

Join our VIP Waiting List

If you would like to inquire about sponsoring or exhibiting at the event, please email us and we will send you all the details you need.

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5 Ways to Make Every Moment Count as a Working Mother

July 4, 2016

I was early to pick my son up from school yesterday – for the very first time. I was early because he had told me that the reason he stubbed his toe at the end of the previous day was “because you weren’t there.” That hurt – more than the stubbed toe. It is one of the most difficult and important things in the world to make the most of your time… especially as a working mother.

For the past few years, I have been mothering two beautiful young men (currently aged 3 and 4), founding a start-up, working part time in a career at an Investment Bank that took a decade to build and was something else entirely to balance with two young sons, two house moves, several bouts of immigration planning sessions etc… it is the stuff we all have to cope with. Daily. There are so few hours in the day that working mothers try desperately to make every thirty minutes count. And we still have to look hot!  Or kind-of okay in my case – most days.

We forget that the fifteen-to-twenty minutes that we make our kids wait for us because we had to fit that last thing in add up… they do. When I saw my son coming back from library with his class – I saw him first – he looked deep in thought. He is related to me, after all! Then he looked up as he heard me call his name and all the colours of the rainbow of joy spread across his face as he ran into my open arms. Wow. It’s been a while since I got a greeting like that from him actually…

I think I’ll make SURE I’m on time today.

So how can we make the most of every moment with ourselves, our faith, our husbands, our kids, our companies, our pet projects? How can we make every moment count so that our lives start to become a tapestry of happy moments woven together rather than a running together of wet colours in an oil painting where everything ends up brown from all the over mixing and rushing around?

1) Prioritise.  What is most important to you? Do more of that and less of everything else…

2) Clear your diary. Just say no. I am over over-committing. I want to be on time for my kids.

3) Pause to breathe. I’ve noticed that when I am in a good and positive mood, with energy to share, the rest of my family is too. Things just seem to happen easier that way. Less tantrums, less raised voices, more aaaaaahhhhh

4) Sing. Even if you do it badly. Kids LOVE to hear your croaky voice – it makes them feel free to use their own! My son has recently started singing “rock ‘n roll” in the car with his Dad… “Are we human? Or are we dancer?”… that song is replacing Brahms Lullaby as his favorite goodnight song… maybe it’s a good thing.

5) Sign up for the Working Mothers Expo VIP Waiting List and book your diaries for the  Working Mothers Expo, brought to you in partnership with MiWay Life, bringing together everything a working mother needs under one roof at the Sandton Convention Centre.

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Now, we would love to hear from you… how do you handle all the demands on your time?  Do you have some tips to share on how to make space in your diary for the important things in life? Or find just a brief moment in-between the chaos to breathe? The truth is that we’re all in this together and your comments could help thousands of mums around the world find their own space to take the time they need and, more importantly, realize that they are not alone in the challenges they face…

If you found this article helpful, we would be honoured if you would share it with your friends via email or social media, sign up for the Working Mothers Expo VIP Waiting List and book your diaries for an event you will not want to miss

See you soon!

The Working Mothers Expo, brought to you in partnership with MiWay Life, brings together everything a working mother needs under one roof on 4-6 November at the Sandton Convention Centre.  Take a step back from your hectic schedule, make some time to reflect, hear an inspiring speaker, indulge in some retail therapy and connect with other working mothers. We would like to create some dedicated time in your schedule that is all about you.

It’s time to take a moment. Join our VIP Waiting List

If you would like to inquire about sponsoring or exhibiting at the event, please email us and we will send you all the details you need.

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Celebrating Mothers of Africa!

May 28, 2016

I have long since wondered about the definition of Motherhood. I have read about it, arranged coffee meet-ups with other moms, arranged playgroups, curiously accepted kids birthday party invitations (moms would put into my kids school bags) just for the opportunity to get to know the other moms. I have started this blog for fabulous moms, most of my friends are moms and I work with many, many moms.

The conclusion to my theory on the definition of Motherhood was that there is no one definition to this phenomenon. We are just way too dynamic to be categorized, for we are ever changing and what we do, for our family and others, are never ending.

This is also what the inspirational book “Celebrating Mothers of Africa” has confirmed once again. The book compiled and written by mom, managing director and founder of Working Moms Expo and fellow blogger, Janice Windt, focus on Courage, Work life integration, Happiness, Self care, Motherhood, Perfection and so much more. Be prepared to be inspired by the wise words of women and moms around the country, facing the same everyday challenges as you and I.

 

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Read the complete book on Celebrating Mothers of Africa here:  Celebrating Mothers of Africa – Working Mothers Expo_2016

Moms, stay fabulous and have courage!