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Let’s talk about Mental Health, Moms

March 6, 2017

Moms are superheroes, no doubt. We are the masters in homemaking, we have thriving careers and work long hours, while also making time for our families and friends. Although sadly the latter are more often neglected than not. It is true we can do just about anything we set our minds to; however, we cannot do it alone, because I have learned that it takes a village.

The most bad-ass superheroes have sidekicks and not all wear capes, just so do all moms need a strong support team of family and friends to step in when we not only need to see to our physical health but our mental health too. I always say, a fabulous mom knows when to ask for help.

Whenever our kids fall ill, who do they seek out first for comfort? MOM. When they’re feeling hurt, whose reassurance do they depend on? MOM. And when they’re uncertain, at least they can be sure of mom’s unfailing love and care for them. But how are you going to do all that when you’re battling depression or alcoholism. I believe it is in these tender moments when our kids are leaning on us for support and guidance,  that the foundation of their mentality towards the world is laid.

A healthy outlook on life starts at home and often with us. Therefore, if for none other than the well-being of our children, we need to unite in the battle against mental illness attacking our women and in so doing raise a healthier generation.

The more we speak about mental illness in our society, the more we will learn about its symptoms and treatments. Only then can we start to heal and remove its ugly stigma.

Only after my mother had a stroke while alone at home one night, tragically resulting in the loss of too much oxygen to the brain, causing severe brain damage and her ultimate passing, did I realise she’d been suffering from a mental illness for possibly my whole life. Mom was an alcoholic. 

Did you know alcoholism is a mental illness? Well, it is, and it is curable. For mom it was too late, but it doesn’t have to be too late for anyone else. Which is why this post means so much to me. Many of the most common mental illnesses are curable if treated correctly.

Gita Harie, executive director of the Durban and Coastal Mental Health Association, said: “Mental health is the nation’s wealth. We take it for granted and we forget that there is an interrelationship between our physical and mental well-being.

If you know someone with a mental illness or someone you think may possibly be suffering from a mental disorder, remember to be understanding, compassionate and supportive.

Sources: Women’s Mental Health In South Africa by Alison Moultrie research psychologist & Dr. Sharon Kleinjes Senior lecturer in the Department of Psychiatry and Mental Health at the University of Cape Town; South African Depression and Anxiety Group Sadag;  Health Systems Trust

Love,

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Fun things to do with your partner during the month of Love…and every other month for that matter

February 8, 2017

Here at Fabmom, we believe that although Valentine’s day is a cute idea thought up by ‘someone‘ to show our love for one another, we should make our love visible every day. This might sound cliche, but in the end, it’s the little things that make for the most wonderful of relationships. From sharing in your partner’s favourite things like watching a football game together or simply hanging out playing PlayStation with hubby and the kids, to getting out of your comfort zone and going skydiving.

In fact, psychologists research have shown for a long time experiences bring people more happiness than do possessions.

We live in such a beautiful City! There really is no reason for anyone not to be romantic. If you cannot think of a single romantic thing to do with your love, then you’re just lazy. There, I said it.

Now, I never get tired of a fancy dinner at a nice restaurant, but if you are, then here are a few ideas I thought you might like, to show your love and affection in a small, unique and perhaps more adventurous way:

1. Go bike riding together. On the promenade with Upcycles or around the coast with the amazing e-bikes from Venture South 
2. Plan a romantic picnic. You can either pack your own picnic basket or you can dial a picnic and choose from a selection of romantic locations around South Africa
3. Go for a long drive and watch the sunset together. Daddy’s Deals are currently offering a 2hour Harley drive around the coast for 449 only! Hurry before this amazing offer ends.
4. Watch the sunrise together. Book a hotel room for a night
5. After a nice dinner, go out dancing at one of the many lovely dance clubs around Cape Town.
6. Give each other massages with sensual oils from the beautiful and risque Bedroom adult boutique in Buitengraght
7. Take a train ride through the Winelands with the Franschhoek Wine Tram hop-on-hop-off train 
8. Have a candlelight bubble bath together with champers. Now here’s a treat we often take for granted. Especially us moms. I get that there’s hardly ever any time to run a bath for yourself, much less lie in it…with hubby. Do yourself and your relationship a favour and make some time. If you need help with creating the perfect mood, I even went and found you a lovely little guide.
9. Instead of him sending you flowers, send flowers to your man…while he’s at work. You will find the best service delivery from Bunches For Africa and Net Florist.
10. Take a cooking class with the lovely lady from The Little Pink Chef in Durbanville
11. Have a sexy photo shoot done (together!) by a professional photographer
12. Do an extreme sport together. Go abseiling down table mountain, tandem skydive 9000 feet above sea level, shark cage diving with the great whites or simply go to a theme park and go on ALL the rides together. Even the ones that scare you to death. The Italian philosopher Niccolò di Bernardo dei Machiavelli said that nothing great was ever achieved without danger. Maybe that’s true for love too!
13. Take a horse-drawn carriage ride with The Cape Town Carriage Company while sipping on bubbly with the love of your life.
14. Go Stargazing at any one of  these SA’s top spots

 

from your Valentine.

Love,

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Studio Collection Launch in Cape Town

February 5, 2017

In between family time in New York and running their law practice back home in Mozambique, mompreneur Lei and her husband decided to take up another exciting challenge and open their very own Studio Collection franchise; right here in Cape Town.

It was such an absolute pleasure meeting and sharing many laughs with Lei (pronounced Lee) and her family at the bespoke baby boutique’s launch party last night. The store located on the upper floor of Cavendish Place is a piece of baby heaven. It’s comfortable and pretty and smells so gooood. Lei’s passion for her newest venture is clear when she gushes that it was her two-year-old daughter who was her biggest inspiration. The store with its carefully handcrafted baby linen, furniture and decor and the team that makes it all possible lies very close to her heart. The fabrics are 100% cotton and soft to the touch, all made in South Africa, by the hands of which mostly belong to other moms just like you and me.

Studio Collection is opening its doors to the Cape Town mom tomorrow, Monday, February 6. As the ‘mother’ city, I’m sure we can all agree that it was just a matter of time.

A mom herself, Lei gets how important the best quality fabrics are for our precious kids. She understands that each mom and child is unique and invites you to come pop in by her store and chat to her and the team of experts about your unique preferences; Or if you just happen to be in the area, come stop by for some mommy talk over a hot cuppa coffee from their espresso machine due to arrive this week!

The family is new in town so let’s make them feel welcome 🙂

When this fab mom is not off handling some legal business all the way in Mozambique, you will find lei hanging around her boutique in Cavendish Square.

Studio Collection stores also currently open in Centurion, Rustenburg, Umhlanga and, of cause, Cavendish Square.

This team of textile magicians literally turns your baby’s nursery into anything you can dream of. Check them out for yourself here

(Images are taken from the Studio Collection website.)

Love,

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Fabmom of the Month January 2017: How this mom landed her dream career after 40 years

January 30, 2017

Each one of us have dreams. So often we think it’s better to keep on dreaming and then maybe our dreams will come true, but I have learnt through the years that this is not the way dreams work – striving for and working towards making those dreams a reality is the only way to make it happen for you.

It took me, Wilma Schutte,  no less than 40 years to finally realise my dream. Yes, 40 years! With my unwavering faith and perseverance, there was never any doubt that I will get there some day.

However, forty years ago I wasn’t quite so sure. In fact, back then I would never have thought that I’d end up looking after the little kids of working parents. At the time we lived in Worcester, I only had my 1 month old baby and things were tough. My husband lost his job thanks to the crumbling economy and was in desperate need of another to keep food on the table and a roof over our heads. Fortunately he was lucky to find work all the way in Strand; which meant we needed to uproot and start a new life in the Cape. Things changed suddenly and fast. But little did I know this would be the beginning of big things.

With my daughter still in her pram I started going around visiting estate agents, because we desperately needed to find a place to stay. The winding road I was journeying on led me straight to Nel&Nel Properties in Strand. I managed to find us accommodation that day and was making my way out the door when suddenly life took a different course with me – the owner of the estate agency was a very old lady and I didn’t realise she was watching me from her office all the while I was chatting to her colleague. She got up from behind her desk before I made it out the door, walked right up to me, took me by the shoulder and I can still recall every word she spoke to me. She said: “Lady, I don’t know who you are or where you come from, but I was on my knees the entire night last night, praying to God for the perfect person to look after my grandchild while his mommy is at work.” Without thinking, I said yes! And so the seed was planted to one day have a playschool of my own.

Unfortunately there was no money to rent  another place and so I managed my little playschool directly from home. One child later became twenty and the numbers continued to grow bigger and bigger.

I reminded myself every day to keep on persevering and to hang in there.  

Years went by until one night I had a dream. In my dream I had died and gone to heaven. I heard God clearly speaking to me saying: “You know Wilma, you can’t be in heaven and just sit around doing nothing. Your work here is to see to all the little children.” When I woke up I knew this was not only my dream, but my calling. It’s been forty years and I am now the proud owner of my own playschool, Kids Cottage.

What motivated me and kept me inspired along the way, was knowing that if anyone else can do it, I can do it too.

So I encourage you, mom, to dream big and to hold on to that dream – it doesn’t always take 40 years. I am now finally surrounded by many little kiddies and I could not be happier or feel more fulfilled.

With that, I wish you all the most beautiful dreams.

WILMA SCHUTTE

info@kidscottage.co.za

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Experiencing District Six

January 19, 2017

As a coloured who grew up in Cape Town and admittedly always loved to seek out all the interesting places in and around town,  I am ashamed to say that I only recently visited the District Six Museum. Of cause, while growing up, I have been told many tales of the now almost mythical district, and as I listened to these stories, or rather memoirs, I imagined myself walking through the narrow streets, hearing the laughter of children playing in the streets and eventually felt myself being swept away by the sweet sounds of jazz.

Almost 50 years after the removal of more than 16000 families from the only home they knew for many generations, I decided to, along with my best friend, pay homage to an era and culture once known as the heart and soul of Cape Town.

Nadia and I started our expedition with a hearty Mediterranean breakfast at Seelan on the V&A Waterfront, to celebrate the joie de vivre (joy of life) as they so nicely put it.

 

 

later the morning we excitedly boarded the City Siteseeing bus (our first time) where we were treated to some cool, some funny and some sad facts about our culture rich city. We got to chat to the friendly staff and fellow tourists and although the clouds of mist were fast rolling in as table mountain was being covered by the famous “table cloth,” we enjoyed the cool breeze as we savoured the breathtaking views we so often take for granted.

 

 

Because it’s a hop-on-hop-off bus, we decided to hop off at Charlies Bakery for a sweet treat and obviously to meet Charly’s Cake Angels from the 2011 docu-reality TV series.

 

 

  The District six museum located in the heart of the Mother City, serves as a remembrance to the culture and history of the area before the removals.

 

 

On entering you are solemnly greeted by a large street map of District Six, with handwritten notes from former residents indicating where their homes had once been

 

 

Street signs from the old district tell a heartbreaking story of the lives of the District Six families

 

District Six also contributed mightily to the distinguished history of South African Jazz

 

 

Oh how this takes me back to my early childhood! The games we use to play, the fun we use to have. The things our kids will sadly never know.

 

 

The remains of the slave tree – where slaves were sold and leased at public auctions.

 

 

Continuing our journey around the peninsula

 

 

Just another Summers day at Kirstenbosch Botanical gardens

 

Thank you Wiki for helping me piece together this post and bringing to life my photographs taken during my visit to the museum. I encourage every South African, and otherwise, to visit the district six museum on your visit to the Cape.

Love,