Fashion, Inspiration, Slider

5 fashion essentials (Not just every mom) should buy cheap

August 19, 2016
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As a mom I am always on the run. And I don’t mean on the treadmill or even after my kids for that matter.

I’m always on the run to work, coffee with a friend, the shops, Spur with the kids,  after a story for my blog, on my husband’s nerves (yes, I sometimes work on his nerves too) and then of cause we cannot ignore the inevitable school functions.

It’s a fact that no matter where I go or what I do, I like to look good doing it. However, chances are phenomenal I’m going to spill something while I’m at it and it is most likely going to be on myself. I am for this reason striking against contrary belief that all staple fashion items needs to be quality and therefore expensive. In fact I’m now convinced they should be as cheap as you can get them so you don’t feel so guilty when spilling coffee or pasta all over them. can I get an Amen!

Here’s 5 fashion essentials I believe every mom should buy on the cheap

T-shirts

I’m a t-shirt gal. I dress them up and down to suit any occasion and the plain white tee is my all time fave. According to Glamour you should Stock up and not feel guilty if you have to toss it eventually due to spills, stains, or discoloration.

Trendy sunglasses

I’ve come across the coolest, trendiest and bad-ass sunnies sold at many a robot around town for R50.  R20 depending on your negotiating skills.

Not only do I quickly get tired of one style, but i also always lose them.

Glamour says to spend more on that classic black pair you’ll wear forever, but go low when doing funky shapes or bold colors.

Ballet flats

I will never forget the day my daughter’s crazy aunt bought her not one, but two pairs of accessorize ballet flats for R500 each! They both literally only lasted a month. My heart just broke. Not for my daughter, but the beautiful flats.

Adult or child, these beauties take quite a beating and they are so delicate, damage is unavoidable. But they are just so darn cute! So why not buy the cheapies in diffrent styles and color. You’ll be better able to achieve the carefree attitude we so associate with French-girl style.

Thongs
Glamour agrees with me in saying yes to spending more for a beautifully fitted bra, and no thanks to overpriced thongs. There are just way too many cute and cheaper options available.

Sweatpants

I love that the athleisure era is upon us. It means we don’t need any excuse for wearing our yoga pants and sweats almost everyday, every where. Guilty!! Lucky for me there’s little difference between a R100 pair and a R500 one.

 

(Feature image stolen from Day Styles )

Inspiration, Lifestyle, Slider

Guest Post – Do you struggle to get your kids to listen to you?

August 15, 2016
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We all do it… we make idle threats in the grocery store to get the kids out of the sweets aisles and through checkout. But do you often find yourself falling into the trap of threatening without real consequence? Do you struggle to get your kids to listen to you? If you do, this article is for you.

My husband and I often feel that we are flying by the seat of our pants with our two kids – born seventeen months apart and both with the most wonderful, strong personalities you can imagine. So we ask for advice as much as we can. We have recently been through some excellent parenting workshops at our eldest son’s school.

A key takeaway from our recent parenting course is the following: “Punishment is the result of an absence of discipline”. So, if punishment is the “”timeout” or “naughty chair”, then what is discipline? It’s simple: following through.

I have often made idle threats. Unintentional, well-meaning, idle threats… “Put that back or we are leaving the shop now”, “Sit nicely in the trolley or you won’t get that sweet I promised you”. You can’t really blame me… trying to complete a shop with personality filled two- and three-year-old boys is no easy feat. Sometimes you will do just about anything to get what you need to get done, done. Preferably without sequential melt-downs. But, often, we choose the easiest route in the moment and sacrifice the longer term benefits of children who respect what their parents say and know where they stand.

The other day, I tried the follow-through approach: We were on the way to the park – My eldest son on his trike and my youngest son on his push bike, as excited as could be for the slides and swings that lay ahead. Unfortunately, my eldest started heading the wrong way – pushing the boundaries – down a dangerous hill with traffic at the bottom. I asked him to turn around. Nothing. I then told him that if he didn’t turn around we were going home – it was too dangerous. Unfortunately, he didn’t listen. I had to physically turn him around and push him back down the road we had come up, while carrying my youngest and his black push bike back home kicking and screaming (my son, not the bike!) in my arms. Our neighbours and their visitors gawked at the scene we made. I kept cool. Unmoved by the cacophony of sound that my boys can produce. My eldest son pleaded and begged, promising me he would listen. But it was too late. I had made a commitment and I was following through, come what may.

Well, once the hullabaloo had calmed down, do you know that I had the most relaxed and compliant afternoon from those boys? They had a lovely play together, came and sat down for dinner and ate it all up. Now, they are each tucked up in their beds and I have a moment to write this before I make dinner. What a difference! I’m committing to keep following through…

Now, we would love to hear from you… do you manage to follow through with your kids?  Do you have an awesome new way you’ve discovered to get your kids to listen to you? The truth is that we’re all in this together and your comments could help thousands of mums around the world to discover new ways to get their kids to listen to them and, more importantly, realize that they are not alone in the challenges they face…

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Entertainment, Inspiration, Lifestyle, Slider

What happens in The Bedroom, stays in The Bedroom – Review

August 12, 2016
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Oh come on! You have to admit you secretly fantasize about walking into a boutique with all kinds of sexy toys and lingerie hot enough to make you gape in disbelief, sensual oils filling the entire place and your senses all at once, and other novelties that will leave no proverbial stone of the imagination un-turned.  I, mom of three, certainly have!

So when the ladies of the Bedroom invited me for a VIP-style tour of their newly opened Cape Town sensual boutique, I wasted no time. And boy, did they deliver!

As soon as I walked into the two-storied sexual sanctuary, as it’s aptly referred to, any anxiety I felt on my way there left and I immediately felt at ease. This was reassuring, since it must be a frightening experience for any sex-shop virgin such as myself.

I know it must take every fiber of a woman’s self-worth to confide in a complete stranger and admit her sex life is in a bit of a crisis or that she’s struggling through menopause. Imagine the embarrassment a guy feels having to admit he needs help with his erectile dysfunction. Scary indeed.

Fortunately, these ladies are not only passionate about what they do, but educated to help men and women alike take back their power and reclaim their sexuality with solid support from the South African Sexual health Association, as well as various sexologists and tantra experts. Which is more than we can say about any other similar joint.

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And if this and the plush decor, the huge bathrooms and the bird’s-eye view of table mountain didn’t convince me yet, then the assurance that all their “play” toys are medical-grade silicone, high-end and imported, certainly did.

It is literally impossible for me to encapsulate in one post just how amazing these girls are and all that they do to ensure our experience is pleasurable and memorable. You simply have to see it for yourself. Thankfully that’s easy, with them right on our doorstep in Cape Town.

I also think it’s a pretty cool rule that although men are welcome to shop on Mondays, Fridays and Saturdays without an appointment, the girls’ priority is for female shoppers’ privacy, and men are kindly asked to wait in the reception area until the fairer sex are on their way out of the boutique.

I recommend absolutely anyone, young and old, male, female, gay, straight, married, single or divorced to go have a look around the Bedroom and be prepared to have lots of fun and meet new friends.

Online Store:

You are welcome from Monday to Friday 10am to 6pm, and Saturdays and Public Holidays, from 10am to 2pm. Or visit their online store if you’re still warming up to the idea

Events after hours:

Book your tantra workshop, red tent event, sexual mastery workshop, private browse parties, bachelorette parties and bridal showers, burlesque shows, and even artist exhibitions and book readings.

Contact Details:

Phone: (021) 422 0307

Emails: capetown@thebedroom.co.za

Physical Address:

189 Buitengragt Street, gardens, Cape Town

Here’s a sneak peak of what you’ll be walking into 😉

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Have fun Fabmoms!

Health, Health/Fitness, Lifestyle

Do you know your health status?

August 6, 2016
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You may or may not have wondered where I disappeared to and why I’ve been so quiet for so long.

Unfortunately this year, Winter decided he was going to be a big old mean bully. So far, I’ve been temporarily half blind for almost two weeks when a huge abscess decided to manifest itself on my eyelid. It was so painful I lived on nine pain killers a day, which in the process gave me the tummy ache from hell, I literally felt I OD’d myself and was going to die. For a week I could only see through one eye and was unfit to drive which led to major frustration. During the healing process things got a little worse before it finally got better. I am happy to report that I have now fully regained my binocular vision

According to my general practitioner, the abscess was brought on by my hey-fever which had been acting up pretty bad at the time. Who knew a simple case of hey-fever have the potential to cause so much agony.

Winter was however nowhere near finished beating me up and just two weeks later, after a case of extreme nausea and thinking I might be pregnant, which couldn’t possibly be since hubby had been snipped for almost three years, I was diagnosed with a severe bladder infection. My second round of antibiotics in one month. Fabulous!

As the saying goes, they always come in threes and one week after recovering from the bladder I am now stuck with the flu. It’s safe to assume that I am overjoyed Winter is getting ready to leave.

Although it has been a nightmare experience, I am thankful for my health. It did however make me think a little longer about just how important regular health checks are for us women, and moms especially. We so naturally and diligently care about the well-being of our loved ones, yet just as easily forget about our own. It’s time we realise that although we are super-human, we are human.

I’ve always been a little, even secretly proud of my “I  never fall ill” status. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of times I saw the inside of a doctor’s waiting room, much less a hospital, while growing up. My first real memory of seeing the inside of a hospital was when our neighbours’ stray dog decided I’m no longer welcome there and bit a hole in my 7 year old arm. My best friend at the time cried her eyes out when she saw me, I was just way too chuffed with my new arm brace. That was the end of hospitals for me.

Until I had kids and lost count. Now a trip to the doctor and the ER with them is as routine as the seasons. Winter with its colds and flu’s and so many other viruses and infections, Summer with its heat-related breakouts and fevers and Spring with the ol’ faithful sinusses and hey-fever.

The best way to take care of our family and to continue taking care of them, is to take care of ourselves also. It’s a medical fact that every woman, at least over the age of 20, should make time for healthy habits like regular exercise, stress management and routine health screenings. The hard truth of the matter is that regular doctors’ visits can literally mean the difference between life and death.

Here’s where you can get started:

Breast self-exam: Check your girls for unusual lumps or bumps monthly so you can stay on top of any changes. The best time to do it is a few days after your period ends.

Skin self-exam: The Skin Cancer Foundation strongly recommends that you check out your body once a month for any new or unusual spots or marks. Just remember your ABCDEs: asymmetry, border irregularity, uneven color, diameter bigger than 6 mm, and evolving shape and size.

Dental check-up: Make sure to hit up the dentist’s chair twice a year for cleanings and other preventative maintenance.

Full physical exam: This annual check-up should include a height and weight check, a blood pressure screening, a clinical breast exam, and any blood tests your doctor deems necessary, says Moore. These may include tests for blood sugar, blood count, hormone levels, and other crucial markers.

Pap smear: If you’ve had three consecutive normal pap smears, are in a mutually monogamous relationship, and have no other risk factors, you could technically go three years between screenings. However, most doctors still suggest women see their gynecologist once a year and get a pap smear while they’re there. Your pap tests for any changes or abnormalities in the cells in your cervix, which is a way to screen for cervical cancer.

Other regular screenings include eye exams, cholesterol and blood count, diabetes and mammograms to name but a few. Read more on Women’s Health

According to the South African Medical Journal; “The Discovery Health screening programme offers a paid screening benefit to its members for mammograms, Pap smears, HIV tests, glaucoma screening, prostate-specific antigen (PSA) for prostate cancer screening, random glucose and cholesterol tests, ’flu vaccines and pneumococcal vaccines, irrespective of the type of medical plan members belong to.”

So, in the spirit of Women’s Month, let’s make sure we know our health status!

 

HAPPY WOMEN’S MONTH FABMOMS!!

Entreprenuerial moms, Inspiration, Lifestyle

Mom, I want to be a boss when I grow up!

July 19, 2016

This came from the very mouth of my six year old daughter the other day while sitting on her little plastic chair, in her pajamas, drawing her current fave characters, Topsy and Tim, on a plain white t-shirt with textile pens she got for her birthday in June.

This didn’t surprise me at all as Jada’s “career goals” changes with every new experience. Like the time she wanted to be a “Child doctor” during my obsession with Grey’s anatomy; Or when she befriended the neighbours’ cat and wanted to be a Vet, which only intensified when an “actual real-life vet!” visited her Grade R class.

Then, suddenly, the “medical phase” was over and she wanted to be a teacher like her auntie. Then a model. Then a model AND a doctor.

Of cause I always encourage her vigorous alternating career choices, so while she goes through these phases, I try to keep myself and her informed about the subject as much possible, you know, to answer the million questions that is sure to follow in the months ahead. We will read books on it and google search until we’re blue in the face and the next phase starts.

Most recently Jada’s obsessed with the idea of going to London to meet HRH the queen herself. I know, I’m not sure how I keep up with this child either. This latest obsession has seen us stalking the Queen non-stop (on google) and as a result we pretty much know the entire inside of Buckingham Palace. Of cause, it goes without saying that Jada already has a room reserved for when we visit, which we will, she says.

But, there’s another reason my very ambitious little trooper wants to visit the continent, and that reason is Disneyland in Paris. Yes, just like every other little girl, she wants to meet all the Disney princesses. That’s it. She wants to try on Cinderella’s glass slipper,  she wants to fly the magic carpet with Jasmine and along with many other perfectly planned adventures, she really really really wants to build a snowman with Anna and Elsa.

Needless to say, she has not been taking well to the fact that this magical Kingdom is many thousands of miles away and will cost us many thousands of rands too. So, her determination has naturally taken her on a new career path – starting her own business, becoming her own Boss and in so-doing save up for her trip to Disney and the Queen.

So, while drawing her masterpiece on her plain white t-shirt with her permanent textile markers, she decided she was going to create these crafty, personalised t-shirts for each of her class mates, sell it to them and save her earnings. Within the hour she already had four orders placed (by grandma and Grandpa) and as it is her first day back at school today, I’m sure she’s already pitching the idea to her teacher and mates. I cannot but be positive, with her forward thinking attitude, that her dream will come true sooner than we think.

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Here’s a few tips on raising a Kidpreneur:

Allow kids to express their emotions and voice their opinion. It builds resilience.

Let them play and limit their time with mobile devices. Play builds innovation and Creativity.

Give kids chores to do. It teaches responsibility for getting things done.

Encourage kids to explore their interest, hobbies, no matter how esoteric. Take them to activity centers such as the science center, Art classes, the museum, dance etc it teaches curiosity.

Even if it’s not what you would do, encourage your kids to make their own choices and then learn from the consequences. It teaches self-confidence

Encourage them to be open with their emotions. It teaches empathy. 

Cultivate gratitude and encourage positive thinking. It creates optimistic kids.

The best entrepreneurs believe in giving back. Encourage kids to help out around the neighbourhood and lead by example by donating to and helping out at charities.

Read more about teaching your kids Entrepreneurial skills at Entrepreneur.com